Parents' divorce

Divorce of parents for a baby is not a pleasant topic and is almost always accompanied by stress. How best to prepare the baby for this, how to choose the right words?Sometimes parents keep a family only "for the sake of the children." But is it worth it? After all, the baby will constantly observe the clarification of the relationship between the parents. The decision, of course, is yours, but do not forget about your child.Psychologists say that the smaller the child, the easier it will be to bear the separation of parents. Whatever it was, the divorce for the crumbs will not go unnoticed. How to behave with the baby during this period.If the baby is not yet three years old, it will be useless to explain something to him. He does not understand what "yesterday", "today", "tomorrow" is. His mother still remains in his life, and she is the most important thing. At this age, the child is attached more to the mother than to the father. He reacts to her mood, emotions. Everything that happens to mom is reflected in the child. And it is not the divorce that traumatizes the baby at this age, but the emotional state of the mother. No matter how hard it is for a woman during this period, you need to pull yourself together and maintain the level of positivity in the family. It is necessary that the baby still feels loved, surround him with your warmth and care.At the age of three to six, kids already think differently. They remember very well how much fun they had with Dad. The absence of their father is perceived by them as the loss of something interesting. The kid is interested in where Dad is, misses him. The feeling of loss is especially intensified when talking to a baby about a divorce, and even with a tragic intonation.It is clear that a man who has left his family is perceived as a traitor and a scoundrel. This is a typical defensive reaction of a woman. But do not share it so often and obsessively with a crumb.Do not use a baby instead of a personal therapist. The child is still young and does not fully understand everything that has happened. He can withdraw into himself, refuse to eat, walk, sleep. He will be afraid that something else may happen, because of which he will be loved even less. Another option is that the kid believes that everything happened because of him, that it was because of his bad behavior that dad left. This is compounded by the mother's bad mood.Whatever happens, do not blacken the image of the father in the eyes of the baby. Say more often that you and Dad love him very much.Parents must explain to the child (in a language understandable to him, in a calm tone) about the upcoming divorce. Psychologists recommend talking to both parents with the baby. So the picture will remain in the child's mind that they still need him, and it will be much easier for the baby to survive the parents' divorce. Do not postpone this conversation.You can explain everything to a preschooler in simple words: "Dad and mom will no longer live together, but Dad will come and you will communicate with him as much as you want."When talking to the baby, explain everything simply, drawing a parallel, for example, with birds (who lived in the same nest, and then flew away, but they will definitely come to visit each other).If the father does not want to communicate with the baby, say that the father has gone to another city, very busy. But don't dramatize the situation.You are ex-spouses, but not ex-parents. After getting divorced, think about the baby. Take part in his upbringing on equal rights, leaving emotions "beyond the threshold". Еще в 16 веке марокканец аль-Гассани аль-Вазир (1985, № 370) упоминает, что коноплю выращивали в садах у воды, особенно в районе Мекнес в Марокко. За исключением корня, использовались все части растения: листья, ветки, можно было купить семена конопли и цветочные верхушки.